It seems the world has been smacked sideways, and nothing is straight.
Several truly horrible things have hit the news at once, one nightmarish story eclipsing the other. We could feel we are living in a crazy house of mirrors, where everything we look at is distorted by the ugliness that is happening around us.
We feel affected by the random craziness of others, despite our will to put it all in perspective and put it out of our minds.
We’re reminded that everything can change in a moment.
This can trigger childhood feelings of “not safe,” for those of us who experienced that.
Many of my clients come in more upset when frightening things are in the news, as they are bombarded with memories that are in alignment with the current tragic headlines.
So often, it comes down to people unnecessarily creating misery for other people.
I, personally, am finding it very hard to take my mind off of the violence in Orlando: the shooting at the Pulse nightclub, and just hours before that, the senseless assassination of Christina Grimmie, a young and rising singer.
My daughter and I watched Christina Grimmie’s YouTube videos before she was discovered on the Voice. We saw her develop her talent and her confidence over time, and she was inspiring in her humility, her drive and in her clear awareness of who she was.
And then there is the looming election and fears, dismay and astonishment around the candidates.
All of this can create a feeling of anxiety for the future—our own, our children’s, and our grandchildren’s.
I don’t know that I have any answers, and am writing this to help me process my own feelings. Perhaps it can help someone else, too.
The words that come to me are: accept the sadness, and let it be. Experience the feelings; don’t resist them; observe the feelings and they will change.
Work it through—using writing, yoga, dance, sweating it out.
Heal yourself by reading and listening to gentle and funny things. Avoid ugliness in entertainment. Spend time with nature and animals. Do creative, contemplative things. Hold loved ones close.
All you have to offer anyone, at any time, is your own state of being.
Be especially kind.
Breathe through it.